Friday, January 24, 2014

Things That Really Irk Me Friday 1.24.2014

Happy Friday Folks! Amazing how fast this week has gone by. You all know what today is, don't you? It's Things That Really Irk Me Friday.

Today's irk is on a more personal level. Have you ever been accused of something you didn't do?

To be accused of something you didn't do is quite discerning. When it comes from someone you know and who knows you well, it brings on all kinds of emotion. Anger, sadness, disbelief, doubt, hate, to name a few.

When you are the type of person who lives by a set of good principles, treats others with respect, believes in honesty and has integrity, getting accused of something that isn't favorable can rock your world.

If you deny the accusations and the person accusing refuses to believe you, it hurts. Try as you might, if that person will not accept the truth and chooses to believe the worst of you, you almost feel like you don't want to get close to anyone ever again.

Now let's look at this another way. What gives that person the right to accuse you when there is no proof of any wrong doing? What gives that person the right to feel superior over you and to want to hold your emotions hostage?  The answer: Insecurity!

The accuser is so insecure that they would rather accost you mentally to make themselves feel empowered. They are so insecure in themselves, that they prefer to think the worst of you. It gives them pleasure to upset you. They surround themselves with a negative thought, a negative outlook, a negative way of life.

They'll never believe you because if they did, that would mean they would have to admit they were wrong. Admitting error is not allowed. That would be a positive act and make them a better person. There is no room for that in their world.

How to deal with people like the accusers of the world? Don't!!!  Remove yourself from their world. Know you are the better person. Focus on the positive in the world. Be happy that you live by a good set of scruples. Say a little prayer for them.

Oh and one more thing...feel great about yourself and SMILE!


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  1. Barb, you rock! You have it exactly right.

    I believe that, when a person who knows you well decides to believe the worst of you, it says more about them than it does about you. There have been a few people in my life that I have walked away from who had such a negative affect on my life and I'm better off for it.

  2. No, if I'm accused, I'm guilty. Like last week, I was accused of "gettin' kinda lazy." Guilty! I even milked it for a few days. Got really lazy. I'm back on track now.

  3. You are so right! I can say I personally can relate.

  4. Not guilty. I was accused a number of years ago. My siblings still believe it's true, and the accusation contributed to the end of my marriage, which was for the best. It still makes me sick that this lie follows me around.


  5. I agree with you, Barb. It has happened to me, to all of us at one time or another, and it hurts. It's a waste of time to get bogged down trying to reason with a person like that or change his or her mind because their need to be right will derail your efforts. Surround yourself with people that are tolerant, nurturing and forgiving and have a positive attitude about life.

  6. II would seem that the most important elements of this story are missing. I'm left with many questions, which I hope will be addressed in future posts. But I can easily understand how someone could feel hurt by this.

  7. Dead on, woman! Excellent way to look at them.

  8. Really awful to be accused of something you didn't do. Even worse when those you care about believe the accusation and refuse to believe the truth when you tell them. I agree - if they won't listen then just walk away.

  9. You go my awesome friend. Excellent advice there. Yes , it hurts when people treat us like that, especially when it is just not deserved. As you say, it's all about power and insecurity on their part. We mustn't let them get through to us, otherwise they have won. I must admit that I'm trying to read behind the words here! Take care.

  10. So funny that I read this. I was reminded that a joke I put on my blog was done in the Hulk a while back. NOT THAT I WAS ACCUSED OF TAKING CREDIT FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S JOKE, but I'm just irked because I never write a joke (knowingly, anyway) which was written by someone else without giving them credit.

  11. I try to steer clear of those who vex my spirit. That's advice from the desiderata.

  12. Yeah, like that time I was accused of stealing my best friend's girlfriend. I was completely offended and I let h...oh, wait. I totally did that. Boy, is my face red.

  13. Yep, I hate this. A true friend should believe you if you say you didn't do it, especially if there's no proof. Often times if they won't listen to you they've made up their minds and are just looking to pick a fight. Better to walk away than sink to their level.